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Here is an article that Cafcass need to take serious notice off. Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD Check out this post http://bit.ly/dwzzhT

http://www.blog.deanramsden.com/the-hidden-damage-of-relational-aggression-parental-alienation-syndrom/

Dr. Gardner also writes, “Many of these children proudly state that their decision to reject their fathers is their own. They deny any contribution from their mothers. And, the mothers often support this vehemently. In fact, the mothers will often state that they want the child to visit with the father and recognize the importance of such involvement, yet such a mother’s every act indicates otherwise.”

Anyone that has ever been involved in a legal battle with a former spouse or partner in regard to child custody has first-hand knowledge of how nasty child custody proceedings can be. Wild accusations are thrown about with little thought of the future consequences of these accusations. At some point after the custody battle the parents are going to have to cooperate on some level because of visitation and child support issues. However, it seems as if no one takes this into consideration; hurt feelings and the need for revenge seem to rule. To make matters worse, it often seems that agencies such as Cafcass and court liaisons such as judges and solicitors choose a side and then dig in their heels for the battle. Where is the justice in this?

The lone, small voice that goes unheard while the parents, their legal representatives, and government agencies duke it out is that of the child in the middle of the battle. What a sad, helpless predicament the parents, solicitors, and agencies such as Cafcass put these children in. These children are uprooted from their normal lives and thrust into unfamiliar surroundings – strangers asking them personal questions, evaluating their every word, poking at them and their feelings. All the while the child is screaming inside for someone to rescue them. Alas, no one comes to their rescue. Cafcass, solicitors, and one of the parents may feel that the child is being “rescued” but in many cases the child is suffering a terrible form of abuse.

Agencies such as Cafcass, solicitors, and the courts do a great injustice to the children trapped in the midst of divorce when they choose sides. When the unbiased systems set in place to dole out justice become biased in their actions and opinions, the objectivity that is supposed to define these systems is wilfully discarded by those in positions of authority. Taking sides is childish and of no value to those involved in the custody battle. Every piece of evidence, every accusation, and every action taken by the parents in child custody proceedings should be viewed with impartiality. By failing to do so the agencies and individuals involved in child custody proceedings effect a great transgression against those most vulnerable in these proceedings: the children – the very ones they are tasked with protecting.

When married couples determine to dissolve their marriage or partners decide to end their relationship, they should try to do so in a civil manner out of respect and love for their children. When outside agencies try to intervene and “help” in these situations, parents should not allow these agencies to further divide the family. Loving parents know what is best for their children, and they should provide protection and support for their children at any cost. Agencies such as Cafcass, solicitors, and the courts sometimes have their own agendas from which parents should protect their children. Divorced or separated parents should work together for the best interests of their children.

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A solicitor, and a prominent, family court Judge, stated in a court of law, that these two documents are authentic Doctors report. Over the next few weeks I will be updating this post.  I hope you are all prepared for what is to come.  Documents
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Well the truth usually come’s out in the end, and the proverbial worm, normally turns around, I intend to name EVERY ONE involved, Cafcas officers, school teachers solicitors and even the judge. Ever known a judge to fall of his high horse.

Every single day I receive an email with at least 3 complaints against Cafcass

And the treatment and way in which I have had to endure this last two years it comes as no surprise, my question its Why has this been allowed to go on

Here are today’s links.

Lynda Mac » Expose Everyone & I Mean Every 1!

Secrecy surrounding the Secret Family Courts « Staffordshire …

CAFCASS AIDING KIDNAPPING AND FRAUD
It makes some pretty grim reading, and I will add links to this list as I get them, I will do what ever I can to help children who are caught up in situations like this, by women who think they can flout the law by lying through there teeth, with out any concerns for the child. The effects of parental alienation can have a devastating impact on a child even much later in their lives.

Alarming Cafcass Report

If you have any concerns regarding the way in which Cafcass has handled your family case. Then it is imperative that you read this report.  It illustrates a vital point that I have highlighted over 2 years ago, prior to this report being published, when they became evolved in my family.  Cafcass is not only incompetent, but dangerous because they impose their over handed power of the law to ruin genuine caring parents and children’s lives.

Children need Parents.

I have spoken to many adults that grew up without a Dad; the general consensus is that they do hold a grudge.   I am just a Dad so what do I know?, In a world of highly trained Social Workers and Cafcass Officers.

In regards to my personal circumstances, the Cafcass officer reviewing my case, had condemned me on the allegation of the other parent, without any proven evidence or investigations, to substantiate the conviction.

Cafcass decisions to alienate me from my daughter after an initial interviewing with me had a devastating impact on the family as a whole.    Cafcass have been granted the power to condemn law abiding parents.  Any parents who had faith in the law system, and is under the delusion that Cafcass would protect their rights, and the rights of their children are in for devastating disappointment.

Read the report for yourself and form your own opinion . http://bit.ly/bYaeLS

The child may not be old enough to understand what is going on in situations such as these. Sometimes children are simply too young to understand the origins and consequences of the conflict between the parents. Just because the child may be young does not mean that he or she will not be negatively impacted by parental alienation. If he or she does have an understanding of what is happening between the parents, the child may torn and conflicted in his or her emotions. Children love their parents, and this affection is an innate feeling. When parents are alienated from their children, this usually does not eradicate the love the child has for the alienated parent. It may, however, foster feelings of distrust or even hatred towards the parent responsible for the alienation between the child and their other parent.

Parental alienation is not an isolated incidence. There are many divorced parents that rarely if ever get to see their children. In some cases this is due to the parent’s failure to be a good parent and provide for their children. In other cases, one parent does not get to see their children because of the actions and behaviors of the other parent. Ideally, children need to grow up in a home with both of their parents. When this is not possible, the parents should be willing to put their differences aside and do what is best for the children involved. Intentional parental alienation is born out of selfishness and revenge. Children will be harmed by these types of actions. Regardless of how much the relationship between the parents has deteriorated, they should always work together to provide the best life for their children possible. The best life most always includes the involvement of both parents.

Parental Alienation: What Is It? How Can Parents Fight It? Most Complete Volume Of Information About Pas Ever Published. Child Custody Affiliate Site:  http://bit.ly/bL49vu

Read the report for yourself and form your own opinion

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The point of this information is to stress that fact that breastfeeding is important. It is not only physically important to the baby but it emotionally important as well. Breastfeeding is an intimate time in which a new mother has the chance to really “mother” her baby. Breastfeeding provides a level of comfort and emotional support for the baby that cannot be gotten from a bottle. Breastfeeding is one of the most important things a mother can do for her baby. However, mothers should realize that children cannot be breastfed indefinitely. A time will come when the child needs to be weaned.

There is no definitive point in time when breastfeeding should cease. The American Academy of Paediatrics encourages mothers to breastfeed for at least a year. UNICEF encourages mothers to breastfeed for two years of longer. In many parts of the world, mothers breastfeed their children until 3 or 4 years of age. Only the mother and her child can truly determine when putting a stop to breastfeeding is right for them. With that said, mothers should be careful that they are not continuing to breastfeed for their children because of their own emotional needs.

This author is no expert on children and breastfeeding. However, it seems that continuing to breastfeed after 4 years of age could be an attempt to keep the child in an infantile state. This could potentially keep the child too close to and dependent on the mother. It does not seem to foster independence and seems that it could inhibit emotional growth. Relationships are always evolving and reaching new levels of intimacy. The same should be true with the mother-child relationship. Breastfeeding was the most intimate part of the relationship for a while, but both the mother and child should be able to grow and move to a different level in the relationship.

Breastfeeding is definitely a wonderful gift for a mother to give to her child. It will just be important for the mother to wean her child at the appropriate time. While some children will be weaned sooner than others, it might be a good idea to at least make sure they are weaned before their first day of kindergarten. Breastfeeding breaks are usually not allowed in school.
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In the past, families would sit down together for dinner. They would discuss their day – who they talked to, what they did, how they were feeling about the day’s activities. Families vacationed together, and they spent many long hours in the car reaching their destination. Many times families worked side-by-side running their business or taking care of their farm. Televisions were not in every room of every home, and computers and cell-phones were not even in most people’s conscious thoughts.

Somewhere along the way things began to change. Maybe there is not one moment in time that can be pinpointed as to when the change occurred. The change seemed so incremental that no one noticed that it was happening. Families were slowly being broken apart, and society was following the same path as the family. As families became more fragmented over the years, society became more fragmented as well.

Divorce slowly began to become commonplace. Both mom and dad were forced to work, and the children suffered as a result. While the children may have had more material luxuries by both parents working, these children missed out on vital family time. Parents were too busy working to properly parent their children and lead by example. Many children were shuffled off to school only to come home to an empty house.

While mom and dad were working to provide a better life for their children, the children were left wondering where they fit in. In an effort to make sense of their lives, the children turned to their own knowledge and the “wisdom” of their peers. They began to make their own decisions and dismissed the counsel of their parents. They felt they knew better and were smarter than their parents. Parental disrespect began to grow.

The great divide had occurred. Mom and dad no longer worked together as a team, and the children separated themselves from their parents. Family dinners and family vacations were been reduced to historic relics. Cell phones, computers, and reality television shows virtually extinguished family time. The family became nothing more than several individuals residing in a house together.

Society is simply a reflection of the family. The awful and disrespectful behavior prevalent in society today is a consequence of the breakdown in the family. Parents failed at their most important job: parenting. As a result, society has suffered tremendously. Is it possible for society to be rehabilitated? Maybe…only if parents are willing to do their job.
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Bullying often occurs while children are at school, and bullies target those children that do not fit in. Bullies may verbally, emotionally, and physically attack children that they feel are weak. Bullies may also attack children through email or text messages. School administrators and parents often overlook the behavior of bullies because they feel that the behavior being exhibited are “just kids being kids.” However, bullying is a behavior that should not be tolerated by authority figures. When instances of bullying are made known, steps should be taken to ensure that this atrocious behavior is not allowed to continue. If bullying is allowed to continue, unpleasant outcomes can be anticipated.

Children that are bullied often feel that they have no where to turn. They feel that their lives are not their own, and they cannot see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. All they are able to experience and anticipate in the here and now. They dread going to school because every minute they are among their torturers feels like an eternity. These children feel hopeless. For these reasons, many children that are bullied turn to suicide to end their suffering. Many children have taken their own lives in an effort to escape those bully them incessantly. When children in your life complain of being bullied, you should take their complaints seriously. Children should not feel that they have to take these types of situations into their own hands. If left to their own devices, they may feel the only way to resolve their dreadful situation is by ending their life.

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